The Fate of Ms. Kate

On the Sunday before I went in for surgery, my friend Karen gave me a gift bag filled with "get well goodies." In that bag were some yummy chocolates and a book entitled, "Multiple Blessings."

The book was about a couple named Jon & Kate Gosselin and how they came to conceive and care for eight little children. I have to be honest with you, when she gave me the book, I didn't know a thing about this couple. I have since learned that they have a show on TLC, but it was something that I had never seen.

I read the book one night as I was up struggling alone with my pain. My husband is a pastor and he is often gone many nights during the week. I'm thankful for things like books and tapes that often keep me company during times like these.

After I finished the book, I had two thoughts and I came to one "almost prophetic" conclusion. My thoughts were ~ it is very sweet how determined this woman is to be a mother of children, and it is very sad how manipulative with nature that she is willing to be to achieve it. As a woman that has lived to almost the age of 50, I have learned from experience that women who feel the need to control and manipulate their everyday world around them are women that suffer from a very small amount of faith in God.

Kate Gosselin is a very controlling and manipulative woman. I don't think any one would disagree with me about that. But this wasn't the conclusion that I came up with as I closed the pages of that book and put it away on the shelf. The conclusion that I came up with is this ~ this couple will be divorced before these sweet children turn ten years old. Even though there was a lot of talk about God and church and working together for the good of the kids, this Kate woman made the worst mistake a wife can make in her marriage . . . she made HER AGENDA the main focus of the family.

You know dear friends, most men can handle a controlling and manipulative wife. They may not particularly like it, but they will usually deal with it AS LONG AS she is willing to center the family life AROUND HIM and his agenda for life.

Why are men like this? Because that's how God made them to be. He created them to be the provider, the leader, the lord, the one that sets the pace and keeps up the race. And whenever a woman goes against this God-ordained plan, there is trouble. Big trouble.

To this date, I still haven't watched one of their shows on TLC, but I have caught wind of bits and pieces of the destruction of their marriage through the news reports that I read each day. And it's sad, very, very sad. Sad for her, sad for those kids, and sad for him as well. "What God hath joined together, let no man put asunder," the admonition goes, and when men and women do allow their marriages to be put asunder, there is always lasting heartache and pain.

What can be done between them at this point? Well, if they were to come to us for marriage counseling, we would tell them this ~ forgive and get back into your biblical roles. This is the way God designed things, and because God designed it, it always works.

I'll be praying for this couple in the days ahead. Praying that they get the good godly counsel that they need, and then praying that they will humble themselves and heed the good counsel that they receive.

You be praying for them too.